Navigating Startup Events: Rethinking the Classic “What Do You Do?” Question
Startup networking events are often characterized by a blend of excitement, nervous energy, and somewhat predictable conversations. Attendees typically clutch their coffee cups, exchange nervous nods, and prepare for the inevitable question: “So, what do you do?” While this query seems harmless, it frequently leads to rehearsed pitches that can feel insincere and even uncomfortable.
Having recently participated in multiple startup gatherings during my time in Dubai for the Tetr College Programme, I’ve come to realize that the standard opening question may not be the most effective way to connect genuinely. Recognizing this, I’ve started to experiment with alternative approaches that foster more meaningful interactions.
Instead of diving straight into professional roles, I now ask questions like:
- “What’s been more challenging than you expected?”
- “Is there something you’re secretly worried about right now?”
- “What are you focusing on outside of work these days?”
These prompts tend to encourage openness, revealing personal insights and vulnerabilities that can lead to authentic conversations. When people aren’t just pitching their startups but sharing real experiences, it humanizes the interaction and opens the door for deeper connections.
If you’re navigating similar terrain, I’d love to hear your strategies. What are your go-to questions or approaches for breaking the ice at startup events? Let’s redefine networking as an opportunity to connect beyond the pitches.
One Comment
Thank you for sharing this insightful perspective! I completely agree that the traditional “What do you do?” question often feels limiting and can hinder genuine connection. Your approach of asking more open-ended and personal questions not only fosters authenticity but also encourages meaningful dialogue.
In my experience, shifting the focus from roles to stories or challenges can be particularly effective. For example, asking “What inspired you to start your venture?” or “What’s been a surprising lesson you’ve learned along the way?” invites people to share their journey and passions, which naturally leads to more engaging conversations.
Ultimately, redefining networking as an opportunity to learn about each other’s experiences and motivations can transform these events into more valuable and memorable interactions. Looking forward to trying out some of your suggested questions!